Men cannot help but love women. This we all know. But do we know for sure what kind of women men love and what exactly our guys like in the fair sex most of all? Surely, all ladies have different ideas about this, so we decided to talk about it here and combine disparate information in our article.
Yes, men love women. Everyone. But there are ladies who literally slay any man on the spot, and all the guys are ready to fall head over heels in love with them. Have you ever seen an advertisement on television where a girl is walking down the street, and all the guys look after her and whistle, expressing their delight? Do you want to become the same?
If you take a closer look, then, with all the apparent diversity, all the young ladies who are successful with men are actually not very different from each other. And it's really not difficult - to become such a woman, after which men will turn around, and fall in love until they lose their pulse! Are you just ready for this? increased attention? If yes, then let's find out what you need to be in order to please a man.
What do men like in women
The infatuation that appears at first sight, of course, is very different from a real deep feeling. And certainly those man and woman, whom the fairy tale says that they lived and were quite happy, are unlikely to keep each other close to each other only due to their former passion for so many years. But deep feelings appear when a man and a woman get to know each other better. And the first impetus to rapprochement and love is still a hobby. What attracts a man?
Lightness and fun
A cheerful laugh or a coquettish giggle, the joyful look of a woman can melt even the most severe male heart. Happy, cheerful, easy-going people literally glow with joy, as if sadness does not exist at all in their lives. And it seems to everyone that next to such people, luck and joy will smile more on them. Therefore, cheerful, always smiling women, in whose eyes sly sparks often light up, attract the attention of men faster than others.
The way a woman looks and dresses
It's always a lot easier to get a guy's attention if you make an effort to look good and dress nice. And this is not surprising. A bright red umbrella on a rainy day always catches the eye in a crowd of people holding dull-colored umbrellas, doesn't it?
And this does not mean at all that you have to constantly try to stand out with bright outfits and flashy makeup. Just dress in such a way that your outfits hide possible flaws and emphasize all your advantages. In such clothes you will be much more confident. Oh, and don't forget about the perfume too - if you have a subtle trail of a beautiful scent trailing behind you, men will lose their temper when you walk past them!
flirtatious gestures
Oh, men really like coquettes! Do you bite your lips or put your finger on them when you are trying to figure out how to solve a problem? You squint slightly when you look at young man, or raise your eyebrows when you're surprised? Well, if you give your face these or even a million other expressions, then you are already on the right track to making young men's hearts beat a lot faster!
Unfortunately, we do not often resort to coquetry. We completely forget all these feminine things that our grandmothers and great-grandmothers used so skillfully. But in vain! Here, try practicing for a while in front of the mirror, coming up with your own flirtatious gestures. At first, it may seem funny to you, but when you try out the skills you have worked out in a male society, you will stop laughing right away! Because you will see how the guys instantly fall for your tricks.
Just a little skin exposed to the eye and...
Do you want a guy to look at you once and want to look at you a second and a third time? Then show him some bare skin. No, a bare navel, generous slits and deep cleavage - this is not at all! This look of you will literally scream about not too good taste, and you will look as if you are trying with great difficulty to attract attention to yourself and please the men staring at you. And the thoughts that will appear in their heads at the same time are not at all the ones that we are talking about now.
Play a more subtle game that works much better in the end. For example, wear a blouse or tank top that ends just below the waistband of your skirt or jeans. And only sometimes during the movement you will have a narrow strip of bare skin exposed for a second. Or a blouse with a wide neck, but with a fairly high collar - when you have to bend over (well, of course, by chance!), A part of the hollow on your chest will open for a moment.
Oh, how he will want you to bend over again! He doesn't want to take his eyes off you. It is these hints of bare skin that best arouse curiosity in men and awaken their imagination, and they want to look at us again and again. And that's all we need!
seductive voice
If there's one thing that makes a man chill with excitement, it's the sweet and sexy female voice. Learning to speak in this way - attractive to a man and sexy - is quite real, you just need to take care of yourself and practice a little.
When you are talking to a man, speak in a low voice and avoid high pitched voices where the voice becomes like the crushing screech of glass on glass. This, by the way, is the most common timbre of the voice that women use when they are surprised or exalted with joy. And if a woman is angry and screams with a voice of such a timbre ... It is not surprising that there is an expression “to cut a man”, because such a voice really very much resembles the sound of a working chainsaw!
A low, soft voice sounds more attractive. Therefore, it is best to speak to a man in a quiet, gentle tone, and this is not as difficult as you might think. Try speaking in such a soft voice the next time you're on the phone with a guy. And don't be surprised if your interlocutor starts flirting with you!
Woman asking for help
This is every man's dream. Well, at least until he has a strong bond with you. Men love to feel wanted and appreciated by a woman. Most women think that men are just slobs who hate to work or run errands; but this is more likely if they are in a long-term relationship, and the woman is not very good at asking a man for something and then thanking him. And if a woman comes up to him and asks for help in a soft voice, with a smile, he will immediately rush to fulfill the request.
Men really like women who need them. This makes them feel more masculine and makes a great excuse to talk to a pretty woman. An evolutionary desire to be a provider and protector wakes up in them. And when you thank him with a flirtatious smile for his help, there is a very high probability that he will overcome embarrassment and ask you for your phone number.
A woman's ability to flirt
Have you ever flirted with a guy, even if just for fun? Unfortunately, many women feel embarrassed, embarrassed, or even threatened when a friendly guy begins to play a light game of flirting with them.
If you have entered into this game, then this does not mean at all that you are acting immorally, remember this! And in the eyes of a guy, you will not look like a promiscuous girl at all. If you want to impress a man, show him that you enjoy talking to him. If you also add a couple of your signature flirtatious gestures to this game, you can be sure that the guy will seriously want to get to know you better. And you will only have to decide whether you want it or not.
A woman's ability to make eye contact
Imagine the situation: you came to relax in the club, went to the bar. And there! .. Such a guy that you already took your breath away! You smiled at him, and he looked at you with contempt and turned away. Will you be pleased? You'll want to fall through the floor, right?
Men have hearts too, you know. If a guy is trying to get your attention or at least exchange glances with you, then no one requires you to constantly reciprocate him. But you can fix your gaze on him for at least a few seconds, especially if he behaves quite decently. You just acknowledge the fact that you noticed him and that might save him good mood, especially if you are an amazing woman with all the charms that we talked about above. You can look only once, but warmly and with a smile, and on this forget him, and he will be grateful to you that you did not honor him with neglect.
But it is quite possible to look at him strictly or even with hostility if he turns out to be too impatient and intrusive and insists on his desire to get to know you against your consent.
Now that you know what men like in women, use our tips and you will see how easy it is to win the attention and admiration of the guys around you. Just don't forget too much important rule- no one should guess that you are making some special effort to impress them! Everything should look easy and relaxed. Only then will you be a real queen of attractiveness.
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The myth of the "real woman"
“Men (for the most part) like women with smooth movements, feminine clothes, easy to communicate, educated, but not those who are clever all the time.” This excerpt from a comment to one of the videos on my Youtube channel perfectly captures the essence of the most popular answer to this question.
And everything seems to be very logical.
A man is decisive, courageous, courageous, smart, logical, moves this world forward, and a woman is sweet, charming, gentle, sexy, smart (but not smarter than a man), by nature weaker than a man, goes a little behind the man, supporting him in everything and inspiring him to exploits. A man takes care and protects his woman, becoming a stone wall for her. It is this image that is promoted in thousands of articles and videos, in most women's trainings and relationship programs. It is to him that hundreds of thousands of women aspire, trying to change themselves and learn to be a “real woman”.
By the way, it's true.
Most men really like soft, gentle, obedient, silent, smart (but not overly), sexy women around. They will even invite them to marry, and they will take them to the registry office, and create a family with them.
Side effects for women
1. The need to play a role.
A woman can pretend to be quiet, silent and obedient, and lower her IQ so that a man thinks that he is smarter and cooler in all respects. But if she started playing this role at the beginning of the relationship, she will have to continue this performance further.
A woman who chooses to be "a little cute fool" is doomed to be in this role until the very end of the relationship. If she suddenly gets tired of playing a cute little fool, or she suddenly “pricks”, then in a relationship there will inevitably arise big problems, and it is quite justifiably suspected of lying. Imagine that a vegetarian chose to eat meat at the very beginning of the relationship, being with a man so as not to upset him, and to be the best for him, and then she had to eat meat for all the years of their marriage. Imagine what will happen to her husband if she suddenly confesses to him that she hates meat, and ate it only because the man chose her and then did not leave her. Represented? There will be an epic scandal.
2. Loss of male interest.
If a woman does not pretend and does not play, but is really sweet, silent, gentle, obedient, and so on, then, with a very high probability, a man will get tired of her sooner or later. He can even love her in his own way, but either he will begin to be weary of her, or he will get himself a sharp and impudent mistress, or he will leave her altogether.
Why is that? He liked her!
Yes, I liked it. She was also… comfortable for him. She conveniently fit into his life, occupying a small niche in it, and ... remained in this niche. Over the years, it has become totally predictable for him and therefore boring. If a man turned out to have strict rules, then he did not leave her, and did not take a mistress, but he lost interest in her. And if the rules of his life were not so strict, then ... I have already written what will happen in this case.
3. “Erasing” a woman. Whether a woman played the role of a sweet and quiet companion or actually was one, one unpleasant thing will inevitably happen to her - she will begin to fade as a person. She will forget about her own desires, or stop believing that they will ever come true, or they will no longer be important to her. She will adjust to a man so many times that she will lose the feeling of being herself. True, most often women notice this after a divorce, when they rush back and forth in confusion, trying to piece by piece restore the life that they once had.
Side effects for men
1. A victim of manipulation.
When a woman takes a position behind a man, becoming his silent companion, she gets a great opportunity to start manipulating him. And this is what is taught directly or indirectly in most women's trainings.
“Inspire” a man, “wisely influence”, “be his neck” - all these are beautiful synonyms for the word “manipulate”.
A man's chances of resisting manipulation, if they are not done quite rudely and clumsily, is at least. The man can only hope that from these manipulations there will be bonuses for him too, and that in the end he will not be thrown to the side of life, depriving him of money and property, but instead will be helped to become a multimillionaire and world celebrity. But, as they say, the hopes of young men are nourished ...
2. Degradation of personality.
When a man lives year after year with a woman against whom he is “always the king,” he risks forever being stuck in the image of the “king of a small village.” Why grow, develop, grow up, change, if he is already cooler than his wife? You can rest on your laurels and be satisfied with yourself.
But since a person can either develop or degrade, and it is impossible in principle to “fix” his place, then a man is threatened with degradation. And the most unpleasant outcome of this degradation is when he suddenly turns out to be weaker and worse in several parameters than the woman next to whom he felt like a king for so long.
Manipulation instead of sincerity and intimacy, the erasure of the female personality and male personal degradation are just a part of side effects scenario "a sweet gentle obedient woman next to a strong and intelligent man."
He is usually not seen (or do not want to see) by women who are furiously looking for a man, afraid to be alone, or simply because "it's time already, because I'm 29." Almost everyone is sure that this will definitely not happen to her, and it will not be like the others - it will be good and cloudless. When it dawns on her that everything has gone wrong, she is already married, and, most often, with a child in her arms, and it is not easy to change anything.
Is there another option? Eat. But it is available only for internally adult people, or you will have to grow up to realize it.
- Creation of relationships and families not according to rigid gender patterns, but based on the real desires, requests and characteristics of a man and a woman.
- Sincerity and honesty in communication, and willingness to see each other as they are. Note that I did not say “accept each other”, but only “see”, since usually few people reach real acceptance.
– Having your own territory in life, and respecting the territory of another person.
- Turning on your own head, and not living according to the precepts of mom, relatives, glossy magazines and gurus from the Internet.
This is harder to do than to say, but it is quite possible to achieve.
The first three steps you can take are:
1. Stop believing that if you are “sweet, gentle, feminine and quiet”, then female happiness is guaranteed to you, and men will fight in the arena for the right to make you happy, and the winner will bring you this very happiness.
2. Remind yourself of who you really are, and build your life from this set of qualities and properties, without trying to make yourself a “real woman”.
3. Turn on your head and start making choices in your life on your own. And if you want to be a wild Amazon, or a lonely wanderer, or a business woman, then so be it.
Nina Rubshtein, psychologist, coach, founder of the Nina Rubshtein Gestalt Center
Women do not like talkativeness in men. A talkative man is good as a girlfriend, not as a reliable life partner. The best female friend is gay. You can discuss everything with him. But if you want it, then you are expected, first of all, to do business. The boy said, the boy did. And it must be the same guy. If a man spends all his energy on chatting, but there are no actions, this is a girlfriend.
Action makes a man beautiful. I thought for myself, I made a decision, I implemented it myself. This does not mean that a woman does not need to be made aware of her actions - it is necessary, otherwise it can be frightened. But not in the form of “I can’t take a step without you and your word”, but in the form of “I’m thinking of doing this, what do you think?”. And make your own decision.
If a man does not have his own business, which he loves and which brings him income, this is still a boy. Endless tossing about what to do and how to make money is kindergarten. There is nothing worse than male indecision. A woman who is in connection with such a man is chattering from such indecision as on a roller coaster to physiological nausea.
Women do not like men who do not take care of themselves, do not follow. A man who does not take care of his cleanliness and tidiness, who does not care what he wears, is a savage or Small child. He may make a compassionate mother want to put him in order, but sexual feelings do not.
A man who is heavily steamed in his appearance is also not a man, but a child who has problems with self-esteem. Keep the balance guys. If you don’t know how to strike a balance here, don’t be lazy, hire a stylist and discuss with him what is in moderation and in what context, and what is unnecessary.
Untidiness is calculated primarily by smell. If a woman likes the smell of a man’s body, that’s fine, you can’t wish for anything better, but any smell is good only fresh. If your woman does not like your smell, even fresh, this is not your woman. And there's nothing you can do about it, it's physiology.
If a woman criticizes your body, this is also not your woman. Because the main critic of your body is yourself, and not just a talkative critic, but an activist. Don't like it - fix it. But if your body suits you, but the woman does not, this is not your woman.
It is clear that not everything can be corrected and not everything is necessary, but the belly, thick chest and buttocks, and skinny arms are not sexy. The maximum that you can awaken in such a state of good is grandmother's love.
No normal heterosexual woman can stand it when other women are praised in front of her. She is the only one, period.
If you admire someone else, then, depending on the strength of your relationship, this will be at least silently marked as suspicious, and at most as a direct admission of treason. Because everyone is well aware of your biological propensity for polygamy. Don't turn away. At the same time, when a woman praises other men, there is often nothing sexual in principle and cannot be. And if a man throws a tantrum about this, this is a boy with low self-esteem. Pay attention to the difference: what is normal for a woman in this case is unacceptable for a man.
If you remember important dates, like when you started dating, that's pretty cool. Even if you don't remember the exact date, remember at least the time of the year and don't forget to clarify "it seems we have an anniversary soon?" - so you know the date. And if you mark this day with a gift or a festive event, “plus a thousand” will be in your karma. And if you missed by a few days or weeks - it does not matter. Better late than never.
Most women love flowers with or without reason. The smell and sight of flowers is erotica for a woman. And it doesn't matter what you think about it. If she hinted at flowers, then the worst thing a man can do is to say that he considers this a useless gift. "Minus thousand" to your karma.
If a woman asked for something, and you forgot, she puts a tick. If something was asked twice - very loving woman hold it to the limit. Three times - a cause for scandal. This does not mean that you should jump up with all the female desires and turn into a bring-give. But voice your decision right away - will you do it or not, and if not you, then who should do it. Making a decision right away is what matters.
Don't do women favors. If you did something, you did it because you decided so. And that's it. Or don't do it at all if you feel sorry and want something in return. You can always find someone who will.
You do not need to promise what you do not want to do or doubt it. It is better if you first refuse and then agree (at will) than if you first agree and then sabotage.
If a woman is emotional, the worst way to change this situation is to tell her how wrong she is in her emotions. Just ask her what she wants. Calmly and with gentle curiosity. At least she will calm down and start thinking about what she wants. You don't have to and you can do what she wants, for example, you don't have to change parents, jobs, and friends because she wants to. Ask her to want something for herself, not for you. And stay with your decision.
There is no worse situation if a woman deifies you and looks into your mouth, expecting every word like manna from heaven. One of two things: either she is a complete fool, or this is a way to manipulate you in the future, diluting you into peacock feathers and the need to prove that you are cool. So there is no need to pursue it. If a man achieves this, this is a need for a mommy who will listen with delight to “Mom! See how I can!
A man who criticizes women's views on life, tastes, interests and passions is white. No brainer that all he wants is attention to his greatness. And this means that, again, he has a problem with self-esteem.
Even if she is not right in your opinion, do not prevent a woman from being mistaken. When a woman speaks, she simply speaks because she wants to speak. And if she won't talk to you because you barked at her tastes and views, she will find another, more delicate one. And it might not be gay.
And if you still have trouble with self-esteem - find a job that you love, and in the end you will assert yourself in the end. The best support for a man at all times is a deed. A man without work is like a dog without a tail.
Men do not like overly affectionate, weak women.
"No one annoys me more than weak, overly affectionate and constantly confused women. They cannot make a single decision on their own, they start to go crazy when you just look at another woman. When you are together, she will not let you even take a step With such a woman, I feel as if a noose was thrown around my neck and strangled. And no matter how beautiful she is, she instantly loses her attractiveness in my eyes!
“I can’t stand women who constantly make themselves a victim, those who always blame someone else for their problems and live on the verge of an emotional breakdown. I once had a girlfriend who during our every fight threatened me that she would kill suicide. I knew that all this was not serious, but she immediately became so helpless that I felt guilty, even if I simply did not agree with her in something. Six months later, I did not feel any sexual desires for her. "
"Weak, affectionate, pathetic women irritate me terribly." That's what I've heard from most of the men I've talked to. Men don't mean sensitive or vulnerable. We are talking about women who fall into excessive emotional dependence on men. A man fills their whole life, in which there is no place for themselves, their own affairs, personal interests.
Why does it annoy men
The more dependent on a man you become, the more he feels responsible for you. He becomes a father for you, you become a child, and sexual desires disappear.
Why do women do it
1. We feel powerless.
In the second chapter, we talked about how women submit to men, put themselves in second place after them, behave like little girls. All these types of behavior inevitably destroy the woman's personality and lead to the fact that she becomes very dependent on a man, becomes overly attached to him. If your self-esteem is low, you feel less self-confident and more addicted.
2. We are afraid of being abandoned.
If you have ever lost someone you loved - whether it was your father who left your mother or died, or your lover who broke up with you - you may be haunted by the fear of being abandoned. It is very important to analyze this feeling in yourself and try to relieve this tension. You should be well aware of how this affects your love relationship.
The more you are afraid of being abandoned, the more you will fall into psychological dependence on a man, becoming overly attached to him.
3. We have a genuine fear of being abandoned because our partner doesn't love us enough.
It happens that the fear of losing a loved one is justified. Maybe he doesn't treat you well enough. Maybe he just doesn't reveal his feelings to you. Or he doesn't want to tie the knot. All these options for male behavior can quite naturally give you a feeling of insecurity.
1. Be strong and maintain your dignity in your relationship with a man.
If you feel overly psychologically dependent on a man, go back and reread chapters 2 and 3 to remind yourself how important it is to be a strong, independent woman.
2. Try to get rid of your fears, do not be afraid that you will be abandoned.
If you feel that the fear of being abandoned lives in your soul, make a promise to yourself to try to get rid of it. Find an attentive psychotherapist, call on your friends for help, in short, do everything to throw the burden of past disappointments out of your soul, otherwise it will inevitably dominate all your relationships.
3. Make sure you don't carry all the emotional weight of your relationship with a man.
As we discussed in Chapter 3, you will inevitably feel unloved and emotionally dependent if you give more in love than you receive. Take courage and honestly analyze your relationship.
Men can't stand stupid, superficial women
“Would you like me to tell you what annoys me the most? These are women who have no idea what is happening around them. They do not understand anything and spend all their time on manicures, fashion magazines or watching TV. I met many outwardly attractive women, but as soon as they opened their mouths, I instantly lost interest in them. All their charm immediately vanished."
· "For me, as a man, it is very important to feel a sense of pride in the woman who is next to me. I need to know that I can take her with me anywhere, feel free to introduce her in any society and be sure that she will hold up perfectly. Of course, I love beautiful faces and good figures, but smart, interesting women excite me most of all. For me, this is the best stimulation."
The men I interviewed agreed on one thing - stupid, superficial women do not attract them. This does not mean that all men want to see next to them women with higher education or proud intellectuals. After all, men also have different intellectual levels. But it is important for a man to realize that next to him is not a limited, not superficial personality. Men complain about:
• women who only read fashion magazines and never Newsweek or Time;
• women whose conversation revolves around gossip about other women, television programs they have watched, and information they gleaned from cheap newspapers;
stupid, frivolous and brainless women;
women who do not make any effort to continue their education, or do not strive for self-improvement.
Yes, I know what you're thinking: there are a lot of men around us doing the same thing. This is how they drive us crazy! This is true, but those men with whom you would like to be also want to see worthy partners next to them.
Why does this turn men off?
Despite the fact that men may not admit it, very often their self-esteem is based on what kind of woman they have. It is very important for a man what other men think about his wife or girlfriend.
A man should certainly be proud of the woman he loves.
In addition, it is easier and easier for men to think than to feel. So they need to know that they can speak to your mind, not just your emotions and body. At the same time, men find that a good, thoughtful conversation stimulates not only the brain, but also the body.
Why do women do it
As a woman, I always get terribly upset if I see another woman degrading her dignity, acting like a dumbass, trying to seduce a man with her body, ignoring the mind, not using her full potential. Unfortunately, until recently, our public consciousness was dominated by a stereotype according to which intelligence is a male prerogative, and the role of a woman is to look good and make a man happy. Millions of women have yet to come to terms with the fact that, thankfully, times are changing and that they are just as smart and talented as their partners. Since men are traditionally more experienced in different areas of life, we often get lost when faced with the first difficulties and revert back to the "stupid woman" stereotype.
1. Take care of your education.
If you know that you are not using your intellect as well as you could, start working on yourself immediately. Start by reading - newspapers, serious magazines. You don't have to become a scientist. But simply knowing what is going on in the world will give you a sense of greater competence. Sign up for a seminar or take a course to fill in the gaps in your education. Ask about what you would like to know. The smarter you are, the more confidence will come from you and the more you will excite your partner.
2. Make a list: "How I play the fool."
3. Remember: intelligence and competence are extraordinarily sexy!
Men hate women who only care about men's financial situation
“I can’t stand women who, when meeting me, were primarily interested in the brand of my car, my work, what brand of clothes I wear, how I spend my holidays. I had the feeling that they were not interested in what kind of person I was. Everything what they wanted was to have a man by their side who could impress their friends."
"Women only say that they want to see gentle, sensitive, open men next to them, ready to make every effort to make relationships wonderful. In fact, the only thing they want is a man with money. If a man does not have a good work and he, say, a simple salesman in a supermarket or just starting his own business, a woman is not touched by his love and care for her. She will leave this one and run after some idiot who will wipe his feet on her, but who has a brand car " Porsche, a fat wallet and who can take her on a weekend to Jamaica."
Perhaps nothing aroused such anger in men as such women.
Men hate being taken advantage of and hate being judged on their income.
The only thing that can be compared with the feelings experienced by men in this situation is with the irritation that seizes women when men judge them by the size of their bust or waist.
Why does this irritate men so much?
Men and so constantly experience a sense of responsibility and the constant tension associated with it. When a woman evaluates a man solely in terms of his financial achievements, he can only know one thing - his human qualities have gone unnoticed. Lack of emotional intimacy causes men to feel empty and frustrated.
Appearance, mind, age, social position, character traits - all this, in fact, is deeply secondary. The state that attracts men is your enjoyment of yourself and your life. Enjoying yourself is not an easy art, but, having mastered it, a Woman becomes a strong magnet.
