I want a wife, but I don’t get up. The main reasons for male abandonment of intimacy

After a certain time of a marriage that is safe in all respects, cooling between spouses sets in, including in intimate relationships. Everything changes, moves and mutates, especially the relationship of people. And at one moment the man suddenly discovers a new feeling in himself: "I do not want a wife ...". What to do if the former passion has sunk into oblivion, but you do not want to destroy your family?

What to do if you do not want a wife

Most men go through this poisonous subconscious feeling when one single thought is spinning in my brain: "I do not want to sleep with my wife." And it may not be related to the changed appearance of the spouse. More often than not, reluctance to sleep with a wife is not associated with her rounded shapes, and not even with age-related changes.

Reasons for the refusal of men from intimacy in marriage

Yes, male lust is born in the eyes. But it goes through the brain. The information seen through the eyes is processed by the consciousness, which at the exit issues a verdict: “We swam - we know!” or "She is your friend!" This is at best. A man is not attracted to his wife, because:

• He knows her for a long time - several years of marriage.
• He knows everything - every cell and every breath.

That is, a man loses interest in his perennial wife as a "hunting object." It is no longer necessary to “hunt” for it, and it is no longer necessary to expect something unusual from it.

How to solve this problem

Of course, first of all, you need to decide for yourself what exactly doesn’t suit your wife? Changed appearance? Her behavior in bed? Or meek obedience to the husband in everything, because the wife completely trusts her husband? What repels?

Found a reason? Destroy her! How? Turn on your brains and look for the notorious “masculine wisdom” there, which the representatives of the stronger sex put up as opposed to “feminine logic”.

Options for solving the problem

• Part for a while. Determining the time is extremely important! For example, to leave her husband on vacation alone on the rivers of the Altai Mountains to catch whitefish. Separation will return passion to your relationship, and passion can bloom the most dull married days.
• Talk to your wife. She also wants to change the situation for the better. Agree with her about changing her image, about the pool, fitness and solarium. Doesn't even want to hear ?! Buy her an annual subscription to the nearest fitness club - she will have to go there so that the money will not be wasted!
• It is said that cheating with another woman can help a man look at his spouse with different eyes. What are you saying? "I do not want to cheat on my wife"? Then change your wife - a wig, long gloves, fishnet stockings, high heels, bright red lipstick and a slim-body style dress will turn a decent married woman into a depraved and lustful one. Have you slept with a charming, sweet and kind girl for many years? And if a “mistress” woman appears in front of you, in a leather swimsuit and with a whip in your hand? Try to refuse sex with her ... Teacher and schoolgirl, police and thief, nurse and maid! How many “other” women did you have, Casanova ?!
• Doesn't even want to hear about all of the above? Use inflated dishonesty for your wife - a typical pickup technique for seducing a woman. The essence of this technique is that you yourself in the process of preparing a roofing house will experience the excitement of a "hunter for fresh prey." And you put your spouse in new, atypical conditions for her.

Kryshnos - this is an act that blows the roof of your wife, forcing her to look at you with different eyes, and making your heart beat harder. A typical example of roofing is to give a bouquet of flowers for no reason. Or, in general, a “brain explosion” - to send a wife a basket of flowers for work. And be sure to postcard - from you, the legal spouse. You can take her from home to the bosom of nature without agreement - like, "stole". True, in this case, at least 3 days are required for a complete rejection of the environment familiar to both of you. Or another example of korovysnos - a joint parachute jump. Or rafting in a common team on mountain rivers. Even if you just pick up a bath for her, put floating scented candles into the water and lull the surface of the water with rose petals - this will definitely blow your wife's roof.

In the organization of roofing, the main ones are the conditions of surprise and complete conspiracy until they are executed in their intended form. Surprise should be not only in terms of execution time, but also in the selected process of presenting the roof of the house. For example, if you never in your life let your wife drive your car, buy her a “car”, cooler than yours. Or give your own by tying a red bow.

There is still a category of egoists who declare: “I do not want a wife after childbirth!” The advice is simple for such males: masturbate if you want to keep your family and relationships. The postpartum state of a woman is faster if her husband helps her in everything. And after pregnancy, any woman becomes more desirable. Motherhood adorns any spouse, even if he has lived with her for 50 years ...

I do not want a wife: what to do? Such an idea periodically occurs in men, even in the most prosperous unions. I don’t want to destroy my family, but it seems difficult to regain my former passion and understand the reason for such changes. But this is only at first glance. How to understand this problem?

Reasons for a man’s unwillingness to intimacy

Intimacy plays a big role in relations between spouses, and, of course, if such a problem arises, it is very important to first establish its cause. What could be the reasons for cooling?

1. If the husband is physically and mentally tired and carries a huge burden of responsibility and tasks, is faced with various stressful situations, he does not want intimacy.
2. Emerging parental care for a newborn baby also dulls desire. The wife is constantly with the child and gets tired, dad gets tired, earning money, add to this the lack of sleep at night and the child who is always nearby.
3. It is more difficult in those situations when the husband has lost attraction to his wife or stopped loving her. When spouses live together for a long time, they get used to each other and get bored. A man knows his wife completely, he is tired of the same image, or the figure has become less attractive. Here a lot depends on the woman, her desire to look after herself and what she does to always look good. Also, there are frequent cases when a man appreciates his wife as a person, but sexually he experiences apathy in relation to his wife.
4. Unwillingness to intimacy with a wife can be caused by the husband's connections on the side. Perhaps he has a mistress, and he just does not need intimacy.
5. Health problems can also blunt the desire for intimacy. Such cases are not frequent, but you should not ignore them.
6. The lack of a common goal and interests alienates spouses both spiritually and physically.
7. Incompatibility in sex also plays an important role, for this reason cases of the breakdown of marriages are not uncommon.

How to solve the problem of lack of desire for a wife

If a man has an unwillingness to intimacy with his wife, this problem cannot be ignored, but it is necessary to solve it immediately.

1. First of all, conduct an analysis of family life, domestic and other problems and find out the reason for the cooling. Monotony and routine destroy the intimate life, it is also important that the husband and wife should sleep on the same conjugal bed and under one blanket.
2. In no case do not postpone the solution to the problem and do not hope that everything will be solved by itself.
3. Confidential heart-to-heart talks are very important; try talking to your husband without hiding or embarrassing your secret desires. Listen carefully to your husband, without entering into polemics with him and without turning the conversation into an argument.
4. Do not criticize your spouse, because he really can have good reasons for avoiding intimacy.
5. Create an enabling environment. Become a whole, put things in order in the apartment, rearrange, create a cozy nest. Create a romantic setting using different attributes.
6. Do not forget to pay attention to your appearance, think about what clothes you wear at home, with what hairstyle your husband sees you, refresh your image.

Comments

Alex Kraus 2019.03.29 20:12

And mine, from the very beginning, proudly rejected the “kisser-clutching kisses”. In the end: I can’t have it like a log, I live only because of my son.

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Andrey 2019.09.14 21:43

Brother I am still in shock !!! I just remember that the bouquet season with tears in my eyes, but right now the collapse just collapsed ..... where and how to live all interest is a machine that once refuses to caress, it remains to have a dog to get one at least once .... first I wanted a wife right now as it already burns out slowly .....

Recently, I saw an unusually sexy, alluring woman. Such that all men within a kilometer radius looked after her. Only here I can’t describe it to you - it looks like a woman as a woman. Average height, 70 kilograms of weight, long black hair. But how it goes, how it moves, how it looks at men ... It’s immediately obvious - a panther ...

Inside each woman, these two creatures live - panther and hippo. Moreover, this is not about weight, but about internal content. The panther has soft, graceful movements, a confident gait, slutty eyes. Panther is a hunter, predator, her main task is to charm and conquer. Panther is confident, ready to jump into the bed of the man he liked, all the while a little excited. A panther woman is seen per kilometer as she walks down the street. There is something so bewitching in her movements that men turn their heads. You can see right away - the female is in excellent sexual tone, you simply must catch up, and try to tame.

Panther is the heroine of male erotic fantasies. On her, as they say, gets up. Moreover, it arises for everyone, and not just the legal spouse, if any. This must be taken into account. It is this fact in panthers that annoys men.

Having achieved panther by cunning ways and methods, the man strives to turn a proud wild beast ... into a hippo. Conquer, tame, lock at home. To not dare to think about anyone but me. Moreover, flirt. So much more comfortable. And women themselves eagerly play along with men in this - public opinion does not see the “wife and mother” in the guise of a proud predator. In addition, such a combination of roles, especially after the birth of a small child, would require a tremendous effort and energy. This is already obtained not even the second, but the third shift - work, feed your husband and children, and even look like a young Pamela Anderson. Therefore, they most often do not look like Pamela Anderson, but as "wife and mother."

“Wife and mother” is something cozy, in asexual pajamas or a clean robe, smelling of milk, borsch and baby powder. Her movements remain smooth, but lose feline confidence, sexuality and grace. A hippo can be cute, homemade, family, loved ... but not sexy.

Here is a hippo sitting at home and reading romance novels. Here is downloading a series about Alexandra Anastasia Lisowska Sultan. Here he fries an omelet, but leads the children to school. It would seem a perfect picture. But something is starting to fail. Most often this is something - a member.

Suddenly it turns out that such a hippo acceptable in everyday life practically ceases to excite. Matrimonial duty is first postponed until tomorrow, then it is performed once every two weeks, and after a couple of years it’s just the right time to talk about arranging a sweet funeral for sexual life. As a result, a conscientious man faces a choice - whether to completely abandon sex, or to have a panther on the side.

On the other hand, a woman also faces a choice. The hippo role that is cozy and does not require special energy is natural and comfortable, especially if there are children and serious work. In fact, if a childless woman with a free schedule can afford days and nights in the gym and on shopping, then an average hippo with average work from such a load will stretch flippers! What to do? Everywhere you throw, an ambush is everywhere.

It seems to me that the ideal solution would be the 1: 7 rule. At least once a week, provide a woman with the right and opportunity to be a panther. Let alone walks around the city, goes to the cinema, drinks coffee in a coffee shop. Let them buy a mini or go to a bar with girlfriends. Let him go to places where men pay attention to her look, gait, figure. Let her flirt and flirt if she wants to. She will not go anywhere that day if everything is fine in the family, but she will gain strength. Yes, it can be uncomfortable for a man. But sometimes it’s worth sacrificing your comfort. Let the panther inside the woman not sit clogged with pancakes and kulebyaki, and straighten her shoulders and rejoice. You can't do without a panther.

What causes intimate problems between husband and wife and how to solve them? She spoke about this during an online consultation on the site. doctor of Psychology, Member of the Board of the Russian Association of Sexologists Yana Enikeeva.

Reason 1. Lack of feelings

Contrary to the widespread stereotype that “most men don’t care with whom”, the emotional component is extremely important for healthy sexual relations between spouses. Most women cannot get sexual satisfaction at all without a sense of love and “love”; and the man, in turn, feeling the lack of interest on her part, will seek the satisfaction of his ego in someone else's bed.

Reason 2. Sexual egoism

One of the partners (most often this is a man) is a typical “sexual consumer”, a sexual egoist and does not care about the feelings of the second partner.

Reason 3. Mismatch of anatomical parameters

- If the man’s penis is much longer than the partner’s vagina, some problems may arise, Yana Enikeeva explains.

The length of the vagina depends on female growth: the taller the woman, the longer her vagina. So, if a man has a long penis and his partner is tall, then we can say that "they found each other." But if a woman has a long vagina, and a man has a small penis, then he and she are uncomfortable.

Decision

- If the partners are sexually literate people, everything is far from being so fatal. There are certain poses that allow you to correct the mismatch of the anatomical parameters of the genital organs.

Reason 4. “Sexual illiteracy”

Ignorance of erogenous zones, inept behavior in the bed of one of the partners.

Reason 5. Sexual Dysfunctions

In men - erectile dysfunction, in women - anorgasmia, that is, the absence of orgasm. Often spouses are afraid to admit to each other such difficulties and choose the most incorrect model of behavior - silence.

Decision

The causes of dysfunctions can be very different - from depression to problems with the circulatory system. Only a qualified specialist can get to the bottom of the matter and fix the problem, and the chance of success is quite large. At least, as urologists say, about 85-90% of cases of male dysfunctions can be cured.

Reason 6. Young - green

Simply put, they have not yet “matured” for full-fledged sex - for example, they are only 16-17 years old. The guys hurried - and as a result, an unsuccessful first experience and, possibly, psychological problems in the future.

Reason 7. First failure

If the first sexual experience was unsuccessful (girls often experience severe pain or psychological discomfort when, for example, they agree to have sexual intercourse not at will, but under pressure from a guy), this could be deposited in the subconscious and affect the entire subsequent sex life

Reason 8. Phobias, complexes

Obsessive fears of pain, nakedness, physical contact, etc. Similar problems should be solved by a psychologist.

Reason 9. What if it doesn’t work out?

One of the most common obsessive phobias in men is the subconscious expectation of failure even before intimacy. Strange as it may seem, when it nevertheless “gets to the point”, a fiasco is ensured for him, because the man has already “programmed himself to failure.

Reason 10. Gender Mismatch

- The sexual constitution is, in simple words, a person’s need for sex, - says Y. Enikeeva. - The sexual constitution is strong, medium and weak. Depends on many parameters. If the sexual constitution of the partners is the same - this is ideal. But if the partners differ sharply in their sexual constitution, for example, he has a strong one and her weak one, then there are conflicts that are colloquially called "sexual incompatibility." However, a compromise can always be found.

Life example:

Alexandra: - My husband and I lived for 9 years, I want sex, not every day, but often, and he pushes me. I am 29 years old, and he is 32. From such a sexual hunger I do not know what to do, at least rush at the first man who comes across. Why is that?..

Y. E .:   - Most likely, you have a strong sexual constitution, and your husband has a weak or medium. In addition, the period of the greatest sexual activity of men is 18–25 years, and after 30 years, sexual activity begins to decline. First of all, sexual desire is reduced, although sexual arousal and, accordingly, an erection are normal. But without sexual desire there is no “trigger”. You, by your age, are in the period of the highest sexual activity (in women, the peak of sexuality is later than in men, at 25-30 years).

Decision

Although the sexual constitution is an innate quality, if desired, it is quite possible to adapt to each other.

- You can change your sexual needs with the help of hormone therapy (but only under the patronage of a doctor!), If the hormones are not enough. In addition, a woman can become more sexual, more sensual through the training of intimate muscles (this is called wumbling). Also, both men and women can have better sexual relations if they know all the partner's erogenous zones and learn how to stimulate them correctly. A man even with a weak sexual constitution can be an excellent sexual partner for a woman with a strong sexual constitution, if he pays due attention to erotic foreplay. And some women, on the contrary, need sex without any foreplay, ”says Y. Enikeeva.

Reason 11. Temporary “problems”

For example, hormonal fluctuations in women: PMS and others. Chronic fatigue syndrome, depression, apathy and other mental disorders can also suppress desire; and many diseases that are not directly related to sexual dysfunction can be accompanied by a decreased level of serotonin, which is called the "hormone of pleasure." Hence, there is no interest in sexual relations.

Life example

Anna: - After giving birth, my sexual desire for my husband was greatly lost. Daughters are already 3.5 years old - the situation does not change. Naturally, the husband feels everything. But I can’t pretend - it’s just beyond my strength. In general, she practically ceased to feel like a sexual object. Is there any way to rectify the situation?

Y. E.: - After giving birth, the woman's sexuality changes. Many people have positive phenomena: the level of libido rises, sexual desire increases, erogenous zones become more sensitive. But sometimes there are problems. For example, if there were gaps in childbirth, and then, even after their healing, sexual intercourse became painful. But most often the problem is in the psychology of relationships. Some women completely concentrate on the child, and they pay less attention to the husband than before. But he loves both his wife and child, and also needs love and attention! And he also wants sex. And if the wife agrees against her will, then her husband is unpleasant. And it's a shame. And a woman sometimes feels guilty, worries. But the more she thinks about it, the more she resists sex “against her will”. As a result, a vicious circle is created.

Reason 12. Psychological problems

If spouses do not find a common language, they often quarrel, this affects sexual relationships.

Reason 13. Latent homosexuality

One of the spouses may not realize (or not recognize) their homosexuality and not practice homosexual contacts; while heterosexual contacts do not give him satisfaction.

Reason 14. The hypocritical education of one of the partners

Life example

Tori: - I am 26 years old, brought up in a strict family, where sex before the wedding was out of the question. Until now, I have not been able to build relationships with men. I haven’t met anyone for more than a month; all the men leave me. And I want warmth, attention, affection and a healthy relationship, and not just sex with a person I like.

Y. E.: - Girls who have received strict upbringing may have a phenomenon called a delay in psychosexual development. This means that libido (sex drive) has not reached its final stage. And when the level of libido is low, it always affects the relationship with the opposite sex.

Reason 15. Mismatch of biorhythms

He is an early bird, she is an owl; therefore, when in the morning he climbs under her blanket and gently kisses her neck - she only gets annoyed, brushes it off and demands to let her sleep.

Decision

“A compromise can be found here,” Y. Enikeeva said. “For example, your beloved has already gone to bed, and you suddenly rushed in to visit him.” You can always cheat a little - they say, I just want to lie down with you a little - well, then start to caress him ... Gradually, he will change his views and also change the stereotype of sexual behavior. Well, you, after he falls asleep after sex, have every right to quietly slip out of the bedroom and go about your business.

Reason 16. Latent disgust

Life example

Yulia: - I absolutely cannot sleep with my husband. Married for 12 years, I do not like his bad breath. I just do not want him to kiss or touch me. He was treating, teeth, throat, there seemed to be no health problems, but all the time it seems to me that he smells. Although, I think this is not the case. I never experienced an orgasm with him, pretending not to offend, seeing his efforts. Especially, everything got worse after I had a relationship with another man ...

Y. E.: - In terms of sexology, this is called sexual aversion. Simply put, this is an aversion to men and an aversion to sex with him. The reasons are different: disappointment in a man, some kind of his unseemly act, betrayal, treason, as well as dishonesty and an unpleasant smell. It happens that the root cause is relegated to the background, and disgust comes to the fore. In such situations, relations deteriorate, everything in the husband is annoying. Especially when it is possible to compare with another man. But it also happens that after her betrayal, a woman seeks self-justification and blames her husband for everything.

Reason 17. She just doesn't want to

The sexuality of men and women is different. Women in general want sex much less often than men, and often agree through force, just to give way.

Decision

If a woman steps over herself and agrees, in the future that same aversion may develop - either towards sex, or specifically towards her husband. If he constantly refuses under any non-existent pretexts - “headache”, “tired at work”, “these days” - he will surely offend her husband and push him away.

- Typical female "excuses", which have already become a topic for jokes, infuriate men, - warns Y. Enikeeva. “But you should not consider all men insensitive and sexually preoccupied!” The vast majority of them are quite reasonable and will understand if you calmly and logically justify: “Honey, I just do not want sex right now. This in some way does not affect my attitude towards you, I still love you. But right now I don’t want sex. Well, for example, you don’t want to dance now? Women sometimes don’t feel like it ... ”Tell your husband that the word“ necessary ”is more important than“ want ”in all areas except intimate.

Do not rush to make a scandal if a man has ceased to pay attention to you. In most cases, the reason why the husband does not want a wife is the woman herself. Let's see what can affect the coldness of a loved one and what consequences are to be expected.

Routine and life

The main reason why a husband does not want a wife is a monotonous and boring life. Of course, before marrying officially, both a man and a woman must clearly understand what awaits them in the future. However, a wedding and family ties are not a reason to get rid of romance, forget about compliments and stop giving presents, even the most symbolic ones.

Work, petty quarrels, shifting responsibilities, condemnation, lack of compromise, household chores and helping parents - this is a way of life that gradually eats up relations within the family, filling only with hatred for each other and resentment.

Remember the first months of any relationship - while a spark occurs, couples kiss each second, giggle sweetly, satisfy each other at any convenient moment. This spark must be maintained, realizing simple truths:

• floors can not be washed every day, however, like dishes;
• sometimes you can do without a fur coat, but spend an extra weekend with your loved one;
• do not demand from the man that you yourself do not give (attention, gifts);
• no need to change sexy clothes for old T-shirts with small holes that are embarrassing to wear even during repairs.

These banal facts show the true reason why the husband does not want his wife and does not reach for her - everyday life kills your relationship.

Scandals, quarrels and showdowns

If you want to know why a husband does not want a wife, you first need to pay attention to behavior. Women are impulsive and emotional. Sometimes they don’t need a reason to start a quarrel.

Female hyper-custody, scandals due to garbage or utensils, constant arrogance and tediousness only puts off a loved one. And here it is important to remember the elementary: an adequate man will understand everything without screaming if a woman talks to him calmly, without turning to personalities and elevated tone.

Of course, this advice does not apply to nonchalant persons who do not realize responsibility to either the family or to themselves. Stop shouting, do not be afraid to show attention and support the man, then he will definitely not move away from you and will not seek attention on the side, forgetting that next to him is a beautiful and loving woman.

Apathy and fatigue

In the modern world, the reasons why a husband does not want a wife are common and analyzed by psychologists. The main problem is that today for a favorable life you need to work hard, giving it the best years of life. Men, as a rule, take full responsibility and take care of the family, giving their wife the opportunity to be at home, to take care of children and themselves. However, women forget the elementary that the male gender is also people and they tend to get tired, strive to go into themselves and be lethargic.

In a furious rhythm, men forget about what they aspired to before marriage and what they dreamed about, and if there is no support from the part of the beloved, then all desire and sexual desire disappears. Answering the question why the husband does not want a wife, we will highlight two main tips:

• Give your beloved a break. Understand that sometimes you can live without a modernized refrigerator and refrain from marbled beef, because sooner or later a person living in a frantic rhythm will spit on everything and go "into the sunset."
• Stop "sawing". If your man is a kind, sympathetic person, then your next scandals, which do not carry important information, will only repel your loved one.

Diseases and pathologies

If the husband does not want intimacy with his wife, this does not mean that he has another and he has cooled to his rightful half. There are also a number of reasons that are directly related to the physiological characteristics of his body. Let's look at all the reasons why a husband does not want sex with his wife:

• decreased libido against a background of viral or infectious diseases;
• this is also facilitated by diabetes mellitus, hormonal failure, disorders in the endocrine system;
• protracted depression and mental disorders;
• age-related changes;
• pathologies and inflammatory processes in the genitals of a man;
• disease of the cardiovascular and nervous system;
• alcoholism and other addictions.

No proper care

We are used to the fact that when a husband does not want intimacy with his wife, then the stronger sex is always to blame. But sex is not an obligation, but a way to get satisfaction on a voluntary basis. So, partners should be as excited and relaxed as possible. But imagine a situation when a man meets a beautiful girl who looks well-groomed and elegant. However, after several years of family life, she significantly gained weight, stopped shaving her legs and taking care of her hair. Clothing stores were replaced by grocery, and on the shelves instead of cosmetics there is a whole set of medicines to the envy of pharmacists.

“A man should accept me for who I am,” you say. However, will there be a feeling of passion for a loved one who does not take a shower, puts on dirty things and sometimes forgets to brush his teeth? The girl is simply obliged to look after herself at any age, and it is not necessary to spend huge amounts on visiting famous cosmetologists.

Beautiful woman is a happy woman. Sometimes in marriage, everything is interconnected, because a man wants to become equal to his beloved, strive to give her the best, so the fair sex should stimulate him to accomplish great things. And it’s better to start with your appearance (maintain the body in a fit state, do not forget about health, pamper yourself with an openwork peignoir).

No children - no problem

Many women also face such a dilemma - why a husband does not want children from his wife. In this case, it is not necessary to build illusions and nourish false hopes, because the answer lies on the surface. The man has other priorities in life, and the children are not yet included in his intended plan. Sometimes it’s difficult to compromise, but the only way is to talk to your loved one. Perhaps he has a primary goal that he has been striving for all his life.

Women forget that before they found their soul mate, the man had a completely different life. He developed, worked, dreamed and strove for something, so to oblige and force him to take such a serious step as having children is stupid. The conclusion is: even before marriage, it is important to discuss this point so that you know what is in priority. Some men want to provide a good future for children, build a house, make savings, go on a trip and write a book, and only then devote themselves to fatherhood.

But there are times when a man made a mistake in choosing a wife, and habit and responsibility do not allow her to quit. Initially, he saw that his beloved was caring, patronizing and caring, but frequent emotional outbursts, screams and scandals out of the blue can ruin the opinion of her. The man simply loses the guarantee that the wife with the birth of the baby will become soft, kind and responsive.

Reasons why the husband cools down after giving birth

The reason a husband does not want a wife after childbirth affects 50% of all couples. Firstly, you need to understand that with the advent of the baby, for some period, family life will change, because a small and failed person has appeared who needs to be looked after. And since men are the main earners in the family, they cannot be sprayed on decent earnings and on the attention of women.

Put yourself in their place: earnings have not changed, and expenses are increasing every day, while the wife became a housewife and takes care of the child. Absolutely all financial worries move to the stronger sex, so after a grueling 24/7 schedule, I do not want anything but a hearty dinner and a good night's sleep.

For this reason, the husband often goes to bed separately. In addition, a woman with the birth of a baby often stops taking care of herself. Even after several years, when it is already possible to do exercises and read books, she chooses her life and plunges into it completely, not paying attention to the fact that the marriage is gradually starting to crumble.

There are situations when a husband does not want a pregnant wife. This can be explained by the fact that the male sex is afraid to harm both the woman and their common child. Often, women are offended by this and believe that family life went wrong just because the husband does not molest the pregnant woman. The reason is that in modern media there is a lot of information that sex can harm a child in the womb.

A man has a feeling of anxiety and fear, because he cannot experience all the nuances of carrying a baby and be sure in which position it is better to commit coitus. And he does not touch his wife because if a loved one really excites him, then even touch and caresses can cause an erection. As a rule, frequent sexual arousal can bring a man discomfort, and even pain.

Why kiss?

Kisses are a sign of trust. This means that partners are ready to open to each other and share the most secret secrets. However, the question often arises of why the husband does not want to kiss his wife. We will name the main reasons:

• Ceased to open. Perhaps you have undermined his trust or are gradually pushing him away from you. Constant quarrels, accusations and screams make the beloved doubt his choice, and subsequently any desire to show attention, to show affection and warmth is lost.
• Your husband is just a selfish and mean person. However, he did not hide his characteristic features, and cold behavior could be seen before marriage. Therefore, here the fault lies entirely with the woman - you knew who you chose. This does not apply to those who fell prey to the "predator". There is a type of men who find a victim, and the more invulnerable, the greater their excitement. In every possible way they gain attention, win, and when a woman breaks down and completely surrenders to her beloved, he simply loses all interest in her.

Think about it, do you show attention, do you compliment and care for your loved one? If not, it makes no sense to demand the same from your husband. Do you want to kiss? Kiss. And want to hug, so do not wait for the first step - do it yourself.

No harmony in bed

Another problem in psychology is why a husband does not want a wife -   the pair simply do not match biorhythms. Here is an example: a man works from 8 am to 6 pm, so after sunset he is awake and ready to conquer the peaks. His wife works from 12 noon until 12 noon, and when he arrives home, he dreams of a hot bath and a warm bed. At that moment, when a man craves a woman, she refuses him for a simple reason - fatigue. And then a similar situation occurs, exactly the opposite.

In this case, you need to be able to adjust your biorhythms, either getting used to the regime, or changing the work schedule, or sacrificing an extra hour to rest.

I want passion and innovation

So what to do if the husband does not want a wife? First, analyze the lifestyle and atmosphere that prevails in your family. Realize how fresh and monotonous sex has become. Understand that to get the most pleasure, you must be sexy, desirable and exciting.

Say no! missionary posture and five minute sex. Talk with your husband about his fantasies, tell him about yours. Meet your loved one in an exquisite peignoir and refresh your underwear. Buy sex toys, connect your husband to role-playing games - do everything to return the old spark. Feel free to try BDSM, flagellation, anal and oral sex, different poses from the Kama Sutra, tantric sex.

Partner selfishness

Perhaps the woman does not realize that she has encountered a manipulator in her life. At his whim, she should give a blowjob and indulge him in other possible ways, and the wife’s desire is not taken into account. However, in this case, the woman is also to blame, because such behavior can be observed even at the beginning of the relationship, until the man becomes comfortable with his soul mate and he decides to marry her.

Ready for sincerity?

Do not rush to throw verbal stones at your husband and blame him for selfishness. Try to talk heart to heart and find out why he stopped paying attention to you. But be prepared, because you can hear the bitter truth, which is very difficult to accept. In this case, you do not need to scream and accuse your husband of sincerity - this is how you will push away and, possibly, lose him forever. Mutually find a solution and a way out of this situation, and then clearly follow the plan. If necessary, sign up for the gym, take the children to the garden or hire a nanny. And do not judge your husband for vulgar fantasies.

Step forward!

Sometimes women are faced with the type of men who are afraid to take the first step. They need to be pushed all the time: sexually stroking the body, touching intimate places, and then pulling your hand in the bed and talking about your fantasies.

It is important to realize that a woman sometimes assigns too many responsibilities to a man and requires the impossible, and after that she is surprised that her beloved has ceased to pay attention to her. Only a sober analysis of the situation and sincere conversations will help restore former passion and cause wild excitement in a man.